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Why I Can’t Be at Peace Now

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The mind, the ego, the subconscious often have multiple reasons why peace must be just around the corner (or difficult/impossible because of some past event) but somehow not possible in the present moment. I will be happy/at peace when: my kids behave, when my spouse ceases doing “x”, when I get more $, a bigger house, more friends, nicer car, more recognition, better relationship, lose weight, get a promotion…

The list is endless AND it’s all a lie! You will be a peace when you decide to be at peace, no sooner nor later. Peace exists in the present moment, it is the product of a willingness to release, to simply choose peace.

Argue for your weakness and it is yours. The more time and energy you spend on your “Why I Can’t Be at Peace Now” list, the more deeply invested in it you become. Release! Choose peace of mind NOW! Your best life awaits you!

Closing Quotes:

“In whatever state I am, therein I am resolved to be content.” – Apostle Paul

“My sense of self is anchored deep within, from that flows wonderful peace.” – NSC affirmation

“Peace like a mighty river flows through me, soothing, nourishing, strengthening, calming.” – Affirmation

“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” – Abraham Lincoln

“Forgiveness (Release) offers me all that I want.” – A Course in Miracles

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier

 

What Schadenfreude May Say

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Schadenfreude is a German word usually defined as experiencing or taking pleasure in the misfortune of others and is derived from Schaden (“damage, misfortune”) and Freude (“joy”). Studies show that the more threatened (including threats to our ego’s or sense of self-worth) we feel by an individual or class of individuals, the more likely we are to feel schadenfreude. While related to self-esteem in that individuals with high self-esteem tend to experience less schadenfreude, self-esteem is most likely more of a chicken or egg issue i.e. the higher our sense of self-esteem, the less likely we are to feel threatened. 

There is a lot to be said for compassion and perhaps even a bit of humility; the phrase “There but for the Grace of God go I” (see footnote) reminds us that fate and fortune play a significant part in all our lives. Perhaps we have just not had the temptations or the trials and tribulations of others. Never judge someone until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.

Closing Quotes:

“Maybe you lead a more virtuous life. Maybe you just lead a smaller one. It is difficult to say without being tested.” – Kevin D. Williamson on misplaced schadenfreude re Tiger Woods’s DUI arrest

“Until he extends his circle of compassion to include all living things, man will not himself find peace.” –  Albert Schweitzer, Nobel Peace Prize

“What others do is their karma, how you react is yours.” – Zen proverb

Footnote:

Usually attributed to John Bradford, 1510-1555, an English reformer imprisoned in the Tower of London for alleged crimes against Mary Tudor and burned at the stake on 1 July 1555, and in turn perhaps a paraphrase from 1 Corinthians 15:10, “… by the grace of God I am what I am…” 

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier

 

Too Much is Never Enough

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Don’t try to keep up with the Joneses because most likely they are chasing the wrong wagon. They won’t be happy when they catch whatever they are chasing and you won’t be either.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Tell me something I don’t already know. Money can’t buy happiness. Check. Got it. Heard that one a long time ago. Next please.

Ah, humanity. I love you. For we are one and the same, you and I. And if we only did as well as we know life would be so much grander.

Luxury Fever. Over consumption. Credit card debt. Self-medicating, distracting ourselves from our real selves, our real needs, with alcohol or the latest fad or social media meme or just general busy-ness.

Closing Quotes:

“What my grandmother taught me: ‘Think twice about spending money you don’t have on things you don’t need to impress people you don’t like anyway.’” – Michele Singletary

“Affluenza: painful, contagious social condition of overload, debt, anxiety, and waste from the dogged pursuit of more.” – John De Graaf, David Wann, and Thomas H. Naylor; ‘Affluenza: The All-Consuming Epidemic’

“You can never really own more than you can carry with both hands while running at full speed.” – Robert Heinlein, 1907 –1988

“All good things are wild and free.” – Henry David Thoreau, 1817-1862, Cause of Death: Tuberculosis

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier

 

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