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The Daily Giving of Thanks: The Simple Key to Joy

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Do you want to be happier? Who wouldn’t respond with a resounding yes? Do you want to be more at ease, relaxed? Be around nicer people that are easier to get along with?

Silly questions some would say; these are things we all want. And we do want to be happy, relaxed, at ease, oh yes we do! And all those things can be yours in greater abundance. The path forward is a simple one yet not always an easy one. Habits can take resolve to change; world views, even ones that hinder us can take multiple, sustained efforts to shed.

Here’s the key: Give Thanks Every Day of Your Life. Deep, Heart Felt Thanks. Make the Giving of Thanks an integral part of your daily (Hourly! Moment by Moment!) routine. Make your list of things to be grateful for, things big and small. Think of it often, add to it frequently. Make it a point to send two appreciation emails before you leave the house. Give a genuine compliment every hour of the day. Smile. Look for things to smile about, then share your smile. The more you look for things to appreciate, the more you will find. How we act, our moods, our attitudes make a difference. We are a social species. I was driving to work the other day and I saw two folks smiling and laughing over their dogs’ antics; I caught a smile that lasted almost all the way to the office. 

Cultivating an Attitude of Gratitude leads to the Habit of Happiness.  It sounds so simple that some discard it, sure that happiness lies in a bigger salary, a promotion, a new relationship, whatever. All potentially worthy goals BUT not the key to happiness. Inner change usually must precede outer change.

Closing Quotes

“He is a man of sense who does not grieve for what he has not, but rejoices in what he has.” – Epictetus

“Today I will judge nothing that occurs. I will release all thoughts that hurt. All that I give to others, I give to myself.” – A Course In Miracles

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier

Three Steps to Get What You Want

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1) Make sure it is what you really, really want. Journal, observe yourself, know yourself. Why do you want this outcome? How do you expect it to change your life? How will you feel different? Have past achievements created results in line with your expectations? i.e. How good is your Predictive Intelligence?

2) Narrow your focus: You can have most anything you want, much more difficult to have everything you want, particularly all at once! Focus, Focus, Focus. 

3) Want it MORE than most, be willing to do what others don’t do. Nothing dramatic, most of the time what others don’t do is carefully lay the foundation, do the nitty gritty prep work that enables success i.e. it takes ten years to be an “overnight” success. Successful people generally do the ordinary, boring stuff better than most. Not spectacularly better, just consistently, day in and day out better. It adds up fast.

All of the above are some version of working on the inner side of your EQ; your Emotional Quotient.

Closing Quote:

“The key is not the will to win, everybody has that. It is the will to prepare to win that is important.” – Bobby Knight

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier

Three Foot Rule

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I recently had the opportunity to listen to Mark Owen, author of “No Easy Day: The Firsthand Account of the Mission that Killed Osama Bin Laden”. As a former SEAL Team 6 member, Mark chose not to focus on telling “war stories” but rather upon the quality (and quantity!) of the training that he and his fellow SEALs underwent to prepare them for their missions. While Mark emphasized over and over the importance of teamwork and selflessness, the episode he told that struck me most was a solitary one.

Mark’s particular weakness was heights and he attacked it aggressively, taking every opportunity he could to parachute and rock climb. One time he froze several hundred feet above the ground, his mind wandering to the dangers of what he was doing, the consequences of failure, and one distracting, non-helpful thought after another. His instructor solo climbed up beside him (Mark made it clear that he was wearing a safety rope and that, irrational fears aside, in reality the worst fate that could befall him was humiliation while his instructor was free climbing with no safety rope) and said words to the effect of  “Mark! Remember the ‘3 foot rule’. Remember it, use it, follow it, and you will be fine.”

His instructor was telling him to keep his mind focused on the task in front of him, the 3 by 3 foot bit of cliff front that lay before him. Any other thoughts were off mission, of no use, worse than useless. Focus, focus, focus. 

Closing Quotes:

“Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work at hand. The sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus.” – Alexander Graham Bell  

“Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer.” – Denis Waitley 

“The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire not things we fear.” – Brian Tracy  

“The successful man is the average man, focused.” – Unknown

“One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power.” – Tony Robbins 

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier