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Thought Virus

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A thought virus is any thought, any point of view, any emotion that does not serve you, strengthen you, energize you. 

When you sense a thought virus, you must eradicate it immediately, just like you would pull any weed, destroy any disease causing pathogen. Thought viruses come in many forms; some lurk deep within from your early years. Others come from positivity challenged co-workers or doom and gloom acquaintances or from sensationalist, exploitive media attempting to make a profit off irrational fears.

Irregardless of the source, thought viruses sap your strength. One of the best ways to cure yourself of a thought virus is cognitive: reframe it, tear it apart, expose its usually illogical basis. Furthermore, even if the thought virus contains a gem of truth, the key is “Does it serve you? Strengthen you?” Example: No matter how true; while you are walking a tightrope, it is no time to be thinking about the odds of falling!

You may be challenged to control the thoughts that come to mind but you can control the thoughts that stay in mind (meditation is an excellent thought training technique that increases focus and calms the mind).

At times I find myself putting off something, usually because I have associated something negative with it. It is within my power to find a positive about the task or situation and choose to dwell upon that. I generally find that my energy levels rise and the task or situation is less daunting than the fear based thought virus originally portrayed.

Closing Quote:

“You are not responsible for the programming you picked up in childhood. However, as an adult, you are 100% responsible for fixing it. When you blame others you give up your power to change.”

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. Nathan S. Collier

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Gold Stars Forever

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What would it take for you to give yourself ‘Gold Stars Forever’? Notice I didn’t say “earn” or “get” Gold Stars Forever, I said “give yourself” Gold Stars Forever. Now, I am NOT suggesting that you coast or give yourself grades you do not deserve. I am suggesting that you can always find some improvement, some positive thought and/or action, some way to advance, some spark of fire that you can support and encourage.

I am also saying that you MUST be on your own side, you HAVE to be your own cheerleader, continually auditioning for the role of your own BFF. Do NOT let your inner critic take control of your mind and spirit, do NOT rent space inside your head to voices that do not love and support you!

When I miss a shot in racquetball, I IMMEDIATELY replay it in my mind as I meant it to be: a wicked corner shot, a devastating roll out, a splendid passing shot. That winning shot is what I want to remember in my mind, the thought I want to be last in my consciousness as I prepare to play the next rally. I’ve hit all these shots before and having hit them once, I KNOW it is in me to hit them again and that is what I must call forth from within.

Remember your BEST moments, keep them in the forefront of your mind; make a treasured collection of those memories, of your finest hours, you at your best. Do so consistently; journal on them and you will create more and more of them. Thoughts held in mind attract in kind, what you focus on expands.

Believe in yourself! Believe in your best possible self, always see that growing, learning, glowing person in your mind and you move toward them steadily!

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Unleashing The Winner Within: Cliff Notes Version

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You have GREATNESS within you; waiting for you to fully activate it. You want more, know you are capable of more, interested in being better, growing, learning, exploring otherwise you would not be reading these words.

1) Pay Attention to What You Feed Your Mind

Nutrition for the mind is akin to nutrition for the body. Strengthening the mind requires frequent trips to the mental gym; daily doses of growth and/or inspirational literature, both personal and professional. Junk food mental diet = weak and unfocused mind = wasted life. Your choice.

2)  Focus Like a Laser: Create a Plan, Work Your Plan

To live the life of your dreams, you must have a dream(s) and an action plans with targets and deadlines to bring them to life. You should set 3 to 5 goals for each of the six major roles of your life (Personal, Professional, Physical, Spiritual, Family/Friends, and Community). Create contingency plans for setbacks. Everyone stumbles, plateaus are normal. Failure is never permanent UNLESS you make it so. Simply learn from the experience, assess, recommit, re-vamp as appropriate, love yourself and move on.

3) Feedback: The Breakfast of Champions

Internal: Journal, Journal, Journal. Journaling gives your perspective, a chance to review your progress, learn your patterns and triggers, hone your awareness.

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4) Lock in Live Long Learning

If you are not growing, you are stagnating. Life is all about change. If you change before a crisis forces you to change, you have much more control over the direction and pace.

5)  Celebrate, Enjoy, Daily practice your “Attitude of Gratitude”, your “Habit of Happiness”

Even Saints must Sleep and Priests must Play. No matter how focused and driven you are, take the time to kick back and relax. Balance is important.

Unleashing the Winner Within is simple! However, simple is not the same as easy! Persistence is Key. “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” - Robert Collier, 1885-1950.

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