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Positive Thinking v. Fantasy Thinking

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Some folks seem to believe that practicing Positive Thinking means to never, ever have any thoughts whatsoever that deal with the negative, with failure, bad outcomes, or with the possibility of things going wrong. WRONG!

Positive thinking simply means adopting a “Can Do” attitude toward life, a “There is a Solution for Every Problem” approach as well as an overall tendency to look at the upside rather than to focus primarily on the downside i.e. avoiding an energy sapping “woe is me”, victim oriented mentality.

Positive people look at the downside FREQUENTLY just not for very long i.e. they DON’T DWELL on obstacles one millisecond longer than is necessary to come up with a viable plan to deal with them! They build their lives and self-concept around their strengths, not their weaknesses.

Virtually every successful person has had a plan for their life, goals, and a well thought out plan to achieve those goals. An essential element of any good plan is contingency elements to deal with setbacks, stratagems on how to overcome obstacles, and ideas on how to preserve in the face of discouragement.

Fantasy thinking imagines oneself on the top of the mountain and stops there. Positive thinking imagines oneself on top of the mountain and then goes out and develops the skills, talents and resources to make the climb, including visualizing successfully implementing well thought out problem resolutions. 


Closing Quotes

“The golden opportunity you are seeking is in yourself. It is not in your environment; it is not in luck or chance, or the help of others, it is in yourself alone.” - Orison Swett Marden (1850 – 1924) 

“Maintain a balance between skepticism and faith. Maintain a beginner mind. Be open to possibility. Don’t give in to skepticism, but don’t give in to fantasy either.” - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

“The majority of men meet with failure because of their lack of persistence in creating new plans to take the place of those which fail.”
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Napoleon Hill

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. - Nathan S. Collier

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Do you suffer from Atelophobia?

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Atelophobia is the fear of imperfection, the fear of never being good enough. 

At some level, at some time, we have all wondered if we “had what it takes.” I used to think that as I moved up in the world and advanced in the hierarchy of my chosen profession I’d sooner or later meet the “real experts”, the ones who had it all together, who REALLY knew what they were doing, that weren’t winging it or making it up as they went along. Somehow, without really thinking about it, I’d assumed they all lived in New York or Boston or Washington D.C., the megalopolises where the intellectual elite gathered. 

Surprise! Everyone puts their pants on one leg at a time and everyone has feet of clay in one way or another. Most of the time, we succeed not because we have no weakness or flaws but in spite of them, mainly by working hard enough to overcome them. Most successful folk are far, far from perfect, even in their chosen field. They succeed not because they are without faults but because they surmount them by dint of hard, hard work.

You are all you need; you are good enough. Find your star, focus your energies, hone your talents and you will live the life of your dreams.


Closing Quotes:

“You don’t have to be perfect to be perfectly okay.” - Nathan S. Collier
“Our doubts are traitors and keep us from the good we might otherwise obtain.” - Shakespeare, Measure for Measure, Act I, Scene IV
“The cave we fear to enter holds the treasure we seek.” - Joseph Campbell, 1904-1987

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. - Nathan S. Collier

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Are You Willing to Take Out the Garbage?

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There are many things in life that are not our favorite activity yet still need to get done. The question “Are You Willing to Take Out the Garbage?” is rhetorical and metaphorical.

Rhetorical in that “are you willing to take out the garbage?” means are you willing to set your ego aside and do whatever it takes to get the job done. The Collier Companies owns and manages apartments. As owner, I set the example when I am on site by picking up litter. Is it my job? Yes and no. Only in the most general sense of “the buck stops here” and the universal qualifier at the end of every job description; “and such other duties as may be necessary/required.” I could say I pick up litter to set an example and that is certainly true. Another reason is that I sincerely see myself as part of a Team effort and I always want to do my part. Yet another reason is that I am OBSESSIVE about quality, Customer Service, and keeping things neat, clean and crisp, and I deeply want to send that message.

Metaphorical in that there are aspects of every task that are less fun than others (to put it mildly). Even as owner of a company with 500 Team Members and a highly competent Senior Management Team there are things that I cannot delegate, that I find myself resisting the temptation to postpone. Being “willing to take out the garbage” means you are willing to do the nuts and bolts portion as well as the glamourous parts of any task.

A second metaphorical aspect of being “willing to take out the garbage” refers to the need at times to discard that which no longer serves us, be it outdated policies or dysfunctional coping mechanisms or obsolete ways of viewing the world. 

 

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier

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