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Declining Drama’s Distraction

let-it-go

Drama can be incredibly alluring, attracting our attention, pulling us in with its siren song.  The swirling emotions trigger our interest and emotions yet like TV soap operas, most are endless loops with no productive purpose or end point. Learn to just let go, release, release, release. Remind yourself of your deepest values, your highest priorities, and focus your energies forward, lift your eyes and attention upward. Eliminate the Negative, Accentuate the Positive; define yourself as someone who always chooses the High Road.

As always, I share what I most want and need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier

 

Make Your Mistakes Pay

learn from mistake

The most costly mistake in the world is the one from which you learn nothing. From an organization’s perspective, it’s the mistake that only one person learns from, the mistake that is hidden away or covered up. Learning organizations (i.e. the ones that survive best in this ever-changing world we live in) know that it is VITAL that “All learn from the experiences of one.” To ensure that the lessons of mistakes are widely shared and internalized, they make it a core cultural value to “Shun Shame” and instead “Revere Responsibility”.

Awards and recognition go to those who quickly “Fall on the Fumble” and who go on to become the “go to” person for solutions and advice when similar situations arise in the future.

Closing Quote:

“Most folks can learn from the mistakes of others but a few insist on making them themselves.”

As always, I share what I most want and need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier

Do You Have Negative Capability?

embrace uncertainty

Negative Capability is “the willingness to embrace uncertainty, live with mystery, and make peace with ambiguity.” The phrase was first used by romantic poet John Keats, 1795- 1821, in reference to the lack of absolutes in the artistic world yet it applies to all of life. It has been said “only fools are certain” and there is a lot of truth to that.

Negative Capability is “ability to tolerate the pain and confusion of not knowing”, resisting the desire (need?) to impose stock, off the shelf, cookie cutter interpretations of reality, ready-made to sooth us by conforming neatly to our world view, transforming emotionally challenging ambiguities into comforting, calming (even if truth stretching) “certainties”.

It takes courage to live with uncertainty but it is often the only way to see the world as it is truly.

Closing Quotes:

“Inquiry is fatal to certainty.” – Will Durant,1885-1981

“Education is the path from cocky ignorance to miserable uncertainty.” – Mark Twain

“What men want is not knowledge, but certainty.” – Bertrand Russell, 1872-1970

“Doubt is not a pleasant condition, but certainty is absurd.” – Voltaire, 1694-1768

“The one unchangeable certainty is that nothing is unchangeable or certain.” – John F. Kennedy

As always, I share what I most want and need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier

 

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