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The Step Within the Indispensable First Step

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The indispensable 1st step to get what you want out of life is to DECIDE what you want out of life. The 2nd step is to create goals for each of your major roles in life (see below), the 3rd step is to implement those action plans, and the 4th is to monitor the results and modify and fine tune based upon feedback/results.

BUT buried within each of those major steps are many minor steps! It may be simple but simple is not the same as easy and if it were easy, it would already have been done, everyone would be doing it, and it would just be table stakes!

A significant step within the indispensable 1st step to making good decisions about your life is self-awareness, self-knowledge. A bit of introspection, standing outside yourself and observing your thoughts, world view, actions, and the emotions that both generate those actions and flow from those thoughts and actions. Do your thoughts, world view, emotions, and actions serve you? Do they guide you toward happiness and contentment? Are they grateful, appreciated, and solution oriented? Or catastrophizing, complaining, and criticizing? If the latter, does that doom and gloom mentality make you happy? Pleasant to be around? Attract the associates that will help you create the masterpiece you’d like your life to be?

Observe yourself and your thoughts/emotions when you achieve a goal or have an experience you’ve been anticipating. Break it down: how good a forecaster were you? What did you learn about you? In what ways was it all you expected; in what ways could it have been better crafted? Caution: do not overdo it. Happiness and contentment in life sometimes comes in 3 parts: as much first from 1) anticipation and then 2) memory as from the 3) actual event itself.

Many of the “goals” and “values” we have in life are not truly ours; we have picked up them up willy-nilly, almost subliminally without serious consideration, from others, our culture, social media, and Madison Ave. By observing ourselves we can learn what truly makes us happy and what direction is best for our personal paths to peace of mind.

Six Major Life Roles:

– Career/Financial
– Family/Personal
– Physical/Health
– Education/Mental
– Social/Community
– Spiritual/Creative

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier

 

Therewith to be content

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“For I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.”*

There you have it folks, the Secret of Happiness, all wrapped up in a pithy quote! Stay contented. No matter what happens, stay cool, calm, and collected, and solution oriented. Surprise: “Things turn out best for those who make the best of how things turn out!” Who’d have guessed? Now all that is left is the application.

When I am cool, calm, and collected i.e. centered and content, I am much more effective than when I am agitated and on edge. Furthermore, such a resource oriented state seems to attract assistance and backing: competence and confidence appeals to others, creates support, captivates and charms.

Doom and gloom, wailing and gnashing of teeth, criticizing and complaining avail you of nothing; cultivating an Attitude of Gratitude and the Habit of Happiness will reap rich rewards.

Closing Quote:

“Nothing gives one person so much advantage over another as to remain always cool and unruffled under all circumstances.” – Thomas Jefferson, 1743-1826, 3rd US President, 6’2”

*“Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.” Philippians 4:11

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier

Asking “How?” Can Be a Defense

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The question “How?” can be a defense against taking action or of declining accountability. When we are truly empowered, we look for the answers ourselves. “How?” attempts to hand back the initiative and with it our power. The “How?” question is a cry for a recipe, a formula to follow that takes away our responsibility to search for and craft a solution. But it is in that search for solution that we are given the opportunity to grow and enlarge our understanding, to learn and master new skills.

Empowering Questions:

Is there a preferred method or do you wish me to find a way? What resources are available? What constitutes an acceptable outcome? What is the desired time frame? How often do you wish to have me report? Who are the stakeholders whose needs must be kept in mind and in what proportion? Are there any known failure paths?

Closing Quotes

“Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.” – William Buell Sprague, 1795-1876

“Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.” – Samuel Johnson, 1709-1784

Without inspiration the best powers of the mind remain dormant. There is a fuel in us which needs to be ignited with sparks”. – Johann Gottfried Von Herder, 1744-1803

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier

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