Better a small promise kept than a larger one broken. Most New Year’s Resolutions fail because they are lofty goals with insufficient foundation. If it were easy for you, you’d already be doing it. Can you imagine tackling Mount Everest without extensive preparation? Including successfully summiting many “stepping stone” peaks? Without a guide(s) and being part of a supportive team? A map, a course, a known path?
Successful personal growth, making progress on one’s path, starts with self-knowledge, a deep and intimate awareness of yourself. Give yourself a PhD on you! Learn your triggers, your programing (including many sub-surface ones that run so constantly in the background you are totally oblivious to them), the in-depth motivations behind what you think of as your needs, wants, and emotions.
Write out your self-concept, who/what you are now and where you’d like to be, what you’d like to create. Think about why, what would be different, what benefits you are seeking, and how you will know you’ve gotten where or become who you want to be. Consider setting goals in each of the major roles in your life, set out action plans to achieve or move closer towards the ones that move you most.
Find source(s) of inspiration and visit them frequently. Observe yourself, what calls out your best self, what summons your lesser self. How to create more of the first, less of the second in your life? Journal! Faithfully record your thoughts and emotions, stand outside yourself and gently nudge yourself forward. Find or create affirmations that crystalize your dreams and lessons and help keep them in the forefront of your mind.
Visualize where you want to go, keep your thoughts positive, solution-oriented, and looking forward. You can’t change the past but you can create a new, better future. If you find positive thinking challenging, simply eliminate negative thinking! It is a waste of energy after all!
Focus on creating a burning desire for growth, learning, and creating your best life. Want power is mega times stronger than will power. Get “Want Power” fully on your side: “So easy when you want to, so hard when you don’t.” It’s your one and only life, release your brakes and create your personal masterpiece.
As always, I share what I most want and need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier