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Make Room for Gezellig in Your Life

 

friendship

Gezellig (heh-SELL-ick) is a Dutch word that has no English equivalent and which Wikipedia says is “A perfect example of untranslatability.” This is in part because the word encompasses a sense of culture as much as aught else, perhaps even a sense of priorities. Gezellig is “that warm, delighted sense you get when spending time with dear friends” but can include meanings from “cozy to friendly, from comfortable to relaxing, and from enjoyable to gregarious”. It can also refer to places, people or events that are:

– easy to relax into or
– heartening or
– entertaining or
– pleasant or
– fun or
– inviting or
– convivial or
– conducive to togetherness,
– foster fellowship or
– bolster bonding or
– create warm memories.

Gezellig is derived from gezel meaning friend or companion. Recent research has documented the positive impact on good health and vibrant longevity that strong support networks provide. In the final analysis, we will all remember the connections we’ve made, the love we’ve given and received, and the communities to which we’ve belonged far more than the material possessions we’ve accumulated or the accolades we’ve won.

Closing Quotes:

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust, 1871-1922

“In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.” – Khalil Gibran, 1883-1931

“Few delights can equal the mere presence of someone we utterly trust.” – George MacDonald, 1824-1905

“Close friends are truly life’s treasures. Sometimes they know us better than we know ourselves. With gentle honesty, they are there to guide and support us, to share our laughter and our tears. Their presence reminds us that we are never really alone.” – Vincent van Gogh, 1853-1890

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier

 

What Triggers You?

understanding yourself

You’ve lived with yourself for a good number of years but how well do you know yourself? Understand yourself? Do you REALLY know your motivations both short term and long term, surface and underlying? Have you taken the time to stand aside and observe from the side, dispassionately, that person that is you? Do you take notes (i.e. Journal)? Write out a plan, put in into effect, monitor the results, and correct and continue?

Or do you just prefer to wing it? Make it up as you go along, do it on the fly? After all, it’s not THAT important? Just your one and only life! Most folks plan their vacations with more effort than they plan their lives! Are you content to be “most folks”? Or do you want to create a personal masterpiece? Live the Life ExtraOrdinary?

Your life, your choices. Learn your triggers, your automatic, often un-thought out reactions. Do they serve you?  Help you or hurt you? Learn to Live Smart, de-wire the destructive ones that sabotage your dreams or lead to dumb choices, create constructive coping mechanisms, visualize empowering alternatives, design desirable substitutes.

Closing Quotes:

“Often, little situations trigger enormous reactions. Be there, present for it. Your partner will find it easier to see it in you, and you will find it easier to see it in them.” – Eckhart Tolle

“Your genetics load the gun. Your lifestyle pulls the trigger.” – Mehmet Oz 

“Family relationships trigger childhood wounds, and those wounds often trump our rational thinking.” – Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love

“If you don’t think your anxiety, depression, sadness and stress impact your physical health, think again. All of these emotions trigger chemical reactions in your body, which can lead to inflammation and a weakened immune system. Learn how to cope, sweet friend. There will always be dark days.” – Kris Carr

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier

Juvat Impigros Deus

hard work beats talent

“Juvat Impigros Deus” is the motto on the coat of arms of the Ramsden family, who held the Manor of Huddersfield since the reign of Queen Elizabeth I (1599). There has been a settlement in the area for over 4,000 years and was the site of an Iron Age hill fort and the remains of a Roman fort are nearby.

“Juvat impigros deus” translates literally as speaking, “God helps the industrious” or “God defends the diligent” but is usually given as “God (or Fortune) helps those who help themselves.” The phrase represents a timeless truth that has been known and repeated since mankind began to write. As far back as 409 BC Sophocles wrote, “No good e’er comes of leisure purposeless; And heaven ne’er helps the men who will not act”.

The concept is not limited to western culture: “Allah will not change the conditions of a population until they change what is in themselves.” Qur’an 13:11 and “Trust in God But Tie Your Camel” is an Arab proverb attributed to the Islamic prophet Muhammad.

Closing Quotes:

“Winners embrace hard work.” – Lou Holtz

“There is no substitute for hard work.” – Thomas A. Edison

“Life grants nothing to us mortals without hard work.” – Horace

“Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did.” – Newt Gingrich

“There is no substitute for hard work, 23 or 24 hours a day. And there is no substitute for patience and acceptance.” – Cesar Chavez

“Like I said, repetition in practice and hard work.” – Jerry Rice

“I like to work hard and see the results of my hard work.” – Erin Heatherton

“I enjoy hard work; I love setting goals and achieving them.” – Jewel

“I learned the value of hard work by working hard.” – Margret Mead

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier

 

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